People are tricky. Sometimes you click with someone instantly; other times, it doesnt matter how long, you just never click with them – and that’s wild. Why? I’m not sure. It just happens.
I’m the guy who falls hard when I like someone. I show up as the full version of me, day one. The problem? I play all my cards in the first round. It feels honest, but it’s also how I end up hurt. Lately I’m learning the slow game: show up, but don’t sprint; share, but don’t unload; keep a little mystery – not as a tactic, just as healthy pacing. Its one of those things that I know that I should be doing, but i dont do it that well i think.
Over the last two years I’ve noticed something: people value attention and autonomy. Be available, not always available. That balance isn’t manipulation; it’s respect – for them and for me.
Really curious to see what happens next. I guess this is what people says is life? Wondering if things are just like this in the start or does this keep happening even after you are with your “person”. I guess only time will tell eh?
Just a random rant. What’s your pacing style – are you an all-in kind of person or slow burn kind of person?
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