In Between Dreams

“Expectations are written in calm moments. Reality is lived in busy ones.”

So, I had a very interesting chat with my wellness coach – well, yes, I have one. We usually talk about the usual stuff about life and everything. Nothing crazy.

Today, she asked me how my month had been.

It was a… crazy month.
Well – not crazy exactly. It just didn’t turn out the way I thought it would.

Nothing was wrong with it. I had just imagined it differently.

I thought I would paint every other day. Travel less. Take a weekend off, go somewhere random, disconnect from technology, and just see what I end up doing. Read more books. Meditate more often.

Well… it didn’t quite happen that way.

I ended up making plans with friends on weekends. Weekdays got hectic with work and exam prep (good thing – I passed my AI certification exam, so yay!). I even ended up traveling to San Francisco for a week.

While talking to my wellness coach, I told her – I’m not disappointed. But I’m also not exactly happy.

Because the expectations I had for this month and the reality of how it actually went… didn’t quite match. There was a gap.

We spoke about it for a bit. And honestly, it’s just life. You can’t plan everything, and things don’t always go the way you expect them to.

And maybe… that’s the beauty of it. Otherwise, life would be boring.

It’s the end of March now – that’s Q1 of the year.

When the year started, I literally sat down with a piece of paper and wrote around 50 things I wanted to do this year.

It’s been 3 months.

And I wouldn’t say I’m anywhere close.

Maybe I did a thing or two. But so many other things came up.

And that got me thinking…

Maybe there’s a big difference between what I expect to do in a month and what I actually end up doing.

And maybe – with a bit more reflection – I can get better at setting those expectations in the first place.

Not about being less ambitious. But about being more realistic.

For example, if I say I’ll meditate 15 times in a month… I already know that’s unlikely. I’m a busy person. That’s just reality.

So maybe the idea is not to plan less – but to plan better.

April is coming up.

Maybe I can take some time, sit down, and write what I actually want to do – and what I realistically can do.

And then check back at the end of the month.

See what I expected… vs what really happened.

Not to judge it. Just to understand it better.

Maybe that’s how you slowly close the gap.